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PREPARING TO LEAVE

Do you have an exit plan?

If you are someone experiencing domestic abuse you need to think about an exit plan.

 

If you consider that there is a real risk that you or a dependent child will be subjected to serious harm think about the following:

  1. How would you obtain urgent help?

  2. Have you spoken to a trustworthy friend or family member?

  3. Where would you go?

  4. Would you need to flee to a safe house outside of your borough - i.e. a women’s refuge?

  5. Do you need legal advice about obtaining emergency court orders?

Collation of important information & documents

 

Have you:

  • Made a note of important telephone numbers such as:
     

                        Your GP                      Women support groups

                        Health visitor               Social worker            

                        Solicitor                       Trusted individuals

           

            NB:

            When making a note – if possible avoid doing so on your phone. 

            This is because your phone might be confiscated or accessed by someone              you do not trust.

  • Recorded any important login details?

       This is best done mentally for security purposes

  • Placed important documents which apply to you or any dependent child in an accessible place, including:

    1. Your driving licence

    2. Passport(s)

    3. Recent bank statement(s)

    4. Red book(s)

    5. Any other important documents

  • Medication – for yourself and children

  • Money
     

  • Any other important item(s) should there be a need for you and your children to leave in an emergency whereby you will have very little time to gather your belongings and be able to think with a ‘clear head’.

  • Make a plan on how you will actually leave -  

    1. Who will assist you confidentially

    2. Where will you go

    3. What transport would you use?

When putting a plan together you must do so carefully

  • You wouldn’t want to arouse the suspicions of untrustworthy members of your household as this is likely to place you at greater risk of harm. 

  • Therefore, only take the steps that are necessary since your safety is extremely important, as well as the safety of young children who may be relying upon you.

Remember:

  • Help is out there although accessing it might be different to how it was before Covid-19.

  • If you require urgent help and assistance or need to flee from where you are a solution will be found. 

  • Please do not suffer in silence or in isolation.

My passport has expired, can I still make an immigration application ? 

Yes.

I do not have my documentation, can I still apply?

Yes.

My husband has never physically been violent to me. It’ is only mental stress. I don’t think I can apply?

Yes you can but contact us to discuss further.

I don’t think I have a visa anymore because my husband refused to apply to extend it for me. Can I still apply? 

Contact us to discuss further.

KIRAN HELPLINE - CALL US NOW ON 020 8558 1986

Phone lines are open Monday - Friday : 9.30 am - 4.30 pm

IN CASE OF EMERGENCY CALL THE POLICE ON 999

Mother and a Child

How we've helped

Saadiya

“Saadiya came to our refuge with her son, after fleeing domestic abuse from her husband. She came to the UK in 2016 on a spousal visa and obtained indefinite leave to remain under destitute domestic violence with the help of Kiran Support Services. Saadiya's husband treated her like a slave having to do all the household chores. She was verbally, physically, emotionally and financially abused by her husband. He didn't allow Saadiya to go anywhere and to have contact with her family. She suffered a lot of physical. Emotional and financial abuse at the hand of her husband and In-laws. However finally after speaking to someone at her sons’s nursery she gets the courage to contact police who referred her to Kiran Support Services where she was offered temporary accommodation and support.

Saadiya received one-to-one and practical support from refuge staff to claim welfare benefits and attended life skills courses. She was referred to attend counselling.  She was supported to make informed choices about her future and slowly she became more positive about life and started gaining her confidence back.  She received help in applying to the borough of choice to make a homelessness application and further received re-settlement support. Saadiya has now gained a paid employment and living a stress and abuse free life with her son in a borough of her choice. “

Iram

I had just turned 18 years old and was new to the country, I could not speak much English and I feared for my life, when I ran out of my family home with just my passport to the nearest police station.


I was then referred to KSS by my social worker. The refuge support worker understood my situation and did not judge me when I told her my dad was forcing me to marry my first cousin back home. I felt heard and believed not just by my support worker but also my counsellor. 
 

When I first arrived in the refuge I felt alone, depressed and scared, but with the support from KSS and my case worker I was not just provided a safe place to sleep but was emotionally supported through counselling and one to one sessions.  


I was also worried about money as I could not apply for benefits, however KSS financially supported me in buying food and clothes as I had nothing while my immigration fought my case. 
My caseworker helped me enrol onto a training scheme which led to employment and this boosted my self- esteem and confidence. I also felt safe as I was supported in getting a Forced Marriage Protection order against my dad. If it wasn’t for KSS I would probably be stuck in a forced marriage. KSS changed my life. "
 

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